busy

ok real quick, Addy's first art project from mom's group last week,



On our drive home Jared casually made the assumption that our whole week was booked...wasn't it? I retaliated that we had Saturday morning free but that I wanted to put up christmas decorations. He smiled. When somebody asks me how we're doing I instinctively reply, "good but busy." Busy is how I always respond, and it's become second nature to have it ready to fire off in response to any question. And Busy becomes this black hole that mysteriously abducts us away from the humble land of availability. I've lately been reminded though that everyone's busy. I think we often make the mistake of assuming that our worth somehow corresponds with how busy we are. We find ourselves bragging about how many responsibilities we have how at the end of the day we're so fried we can't do anything, but then there's the flip side, We've all done it, faked being busy to get off the phone, or out of a lunch date we fear may be awkward.

If companies struggle all year to break even and Black Friday finally flips the switch to gaining profit, then perhaps I should do likewise and focus on the rest of the year as pure gain. I'm going to enjoy it, to embrace the busy as my life and not something keeping me from my life. After all I did sign up for this!

So I'm going to let my girl help me with my "busy" like doing laundry, because let's face it her little face lights up when that machine dings after you push start!



And I'll let her help with the grocery shopping.



And I'll stop what I'm doing and play "help" (where she pretends she's trapped behind the baby gate.)



I'll read her a few extra books in the afternoon extending storytime by at least one more giggle and a hug, we'll have more dance parties. I'll teach her a new word or a good place to tickle her daddy. We'll bake more scones, and have adventures, we'll try and forget that time we were forced to pause and try and be in the moment. Giving thanks for every moment. For now Jared's dad is in town and we are torn between cheering for our two favorite teams: OSU and Duke. Addiston had no problem choosing a side.

Jared's home

It's 1 am and despite my best efforts sleep eludes me. It's our last night at Jared's Parents' house and my mind is racing of all the things coming up tomorrow, this week, next weekend; the reminder that our holiday will be officially coming to an end and normal life will commence soon. Life without card games till midnight were players names are sung in tones of grandeur as if knights being announced at court. Days void of no house cleaning or laundry catching-up, but of mario, car talk, and shopping. There is always coffee here. Seriously. Always. Everyone is always sipping a steamy cup of jo regardless of the time, and apparently my chai tea had some caffeine in it so who knows what time my body will give in.

I'm working up the gumption to bid farewell to Coffee. Our relationship goes way back, and we've certainly had our starry-eyed moments, he slayed me with his foamy cap, his rich and creamy sips, his double shot of caffeine. Oh, he's slick, that coffee. But his caffeinated dark side's been messing with my body, and I wanted to explore other options, date other drinks. So I'm in the early stages of a relationship with this roobious tea. With a little german rock sugar, he has nice swirling capabilities, so we'll see how it goes I'll keep my options open though and keep flirting with the chai.



I love when we get to come up here. It's a far treck from our little country music town (8 hours roughly) but it's peaceful here. The view in every direction is open, still. A car or buggy passes the house maybe once an hour and at night is is dark, no city light pollution, no convenient store generator buzzing, you can see stars and the glow of the moon on the corn. Faith runs deep here, it's not an action it's a way of life, a mindset. Dave and Amanda (Jared's parents) are calm, laid back, and so giving of themselves, no matter who you are you will be offered food, a conversation and most likely coffee. Addiston never hesitates going to them, as if she knows they are safe because they are so calm and we are calm around them. It's so sweet to watch her interact with her grandparents that unfortunately don't live just down the hill as both of Jared's grandparents still do.



Oh and she has mastered the word "dog" and loves the family dog Lacey.



I know I sound all; life is magical, and perfectly fun but traveling with kids is hard. We all sleep in one room which in our case means in one full size bed since Addiston thinks that if she can see us she gets to sleep with us. So we've all gotten very little, we've all been a little grumpy and zoned out, I'm pretty sure we've all gained a few pounds. She is missing one pacifier, Jared did indeed only have one pair of pants for the whole trip and I am short a pair of socks.

We are blessed to have such an amazing family, who loves us no matter what and always offer coffee!

Gobble, Gobble

Well I'm not going to lie, the last two days We spent trapped in our car the majority of the day and it is something that I dread. We try to time our trips when Addiston is sleeping and we take turns driving. Jared says I have road rage, I say most people are just idiots! When we are in confined spaces for too long things can get ugly. I get impatient and chatty, Jared (my patient introvert husband) attempts to appease my chattiness but really I know he wants to ring my neck and duck tape my mouth. It may have taken us 5 hours to make a 3 1/2 hour trip but we made and still said I love you when we went to bed so it all worked itself out!

I am methodical in how I get ready for trips, planning out coordinating outfits for our little family, packing separate bags for their designated houses, making sure we have an extra set of clothes each and double checking for each essential item. But lately my mind has been scattered, I have been planning ahead and getting lost in my head. So maybe we will only match one day this time and maybe Jared only has one pair of pants for our 5 day trip, maybe not. I'm not sayin'

We like to spend Thanksgiving at my in-laws. Nothing against my family but lets face it, Amish country=better food!


A couple of weeks ago when we were headed home I remember talking to Jared about feeling un-thankful. I know I am so blessed and that I have a beautiful healthy immediate family and an amazingly supportive extended family but for some reason I was in a little funk and felt a little guilty about it. But the last few Sunday's our pastor has spoken about some really powerful stuff that has stirred up a renewed spirit in me and I have been overwhelmed with gratitude and thankfulness this past week. I'm so thankful for my husband who is patient with me and prays with me, but mostly I'm thankful for my Lord and that as 1 Thessalonians says, I can give thanks in all things, not necessarily for all things, but regardless of my circumstances I will thank the Lord for my life, my family, and His grace, in all things.

Check us out: Last year and this year.

She's growing like crazy!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Now and then

The other day I took pictures of Addiston playing in the leaves. ok really Jared spent two hours blowing all the leaves into one are then raking them into a perfect pile so I could get a cute picture! Isn't he great! She was apprehensive at first but once the daddy showed her that they dance when you throw them she loved it.



I love fall! The colors, the smells, the traditions, I got married in the fall, I get to see my family more in the fall, and my girl likes the fall. I think we'll make leaf playing pictures a tradition. I guess without knowing it I already started it and almost 12 months to the day I took this picture...


can you believe how much she's changed?

The Farm

Last weekend we ventured about two hours outside out little city to make some memories. Our girl is an adventurer and we've gotta keep that up. My aunt and uncle have an old farm house on the other side of the city and friday after Jared got off work we packed up the car and headed out to spend some time with our family that is down here in the South.

Turns out our girl likes dear, the deader the better, that way they hold still for her to pet and hug them!


The house is old and creeks but has character and my aunt is a shop-a-holic so she has found some great stuff to accentuate it's style. I haven't been out to the farm since I was a Junior in High School and we oldest sister and I came down for spring break. It's changed a lot over the last few years and was such a great relaxing staycation. My cousin and his kids were there and his youngest is only four months older than Addiston and the two played together the whole time.


There were campfires accompanied by roasted marshmallow's, hot dogs and conversation that trailed into the morning hours.


Antique toys were found in the loft of the barn which I'm pretty sure we all need a tetanus shot for looking at!


We hiked to a "waterfall" and on the way back my girl insisted on walking in that dried creekbed coated with crunchy fall leaves.



My girl ate dinner in my Great-grandmothers red chair. She's the 5th generation to adorn it's firery leather and she didn't mind sitting in a big girl chair and being able to eat off the tabel. This beloved piece of furniture has been fought over countless times by the last four generations and my grandmother would love it!


Unlike her cousin Addiston didn't sleep like a rock all night then take a 3 hour nap the next afternoon, instead she stayed up till nearly 11, napped for half an hour and luckily was mesmerized enough by the fire to keep her barely manageable. Luckily I don't take pictures of the meltdowns and I try to remind myself that at that one meal she only at three pieces of cheese. I like to look on the brighter side and wait a day or two to do laundry so the smokey campfire smell stays around a little longer.

Leftovers

So in our house Sunday's are leftover night. I cook most every night of the week and on Sunday afternoon's we do a pot luck with our sunday school class. It's my day of rest from the kitchen and usually it ends up becoming a crazy combination of dinners consisting of stale chips and salsa two bites of broccoli chicken casserole and sugar cookies. Jared is easy going and if he doesn't spot anything he likes opts for a bowl of cheerios. Well much like sundays in relation to cooking, I've taken a break from blogging over the past week. I've been spending time with my girl and investing in some friends. So here are the leftovers of our lives from the past week or so.

Sister patrols shoes at all times. She is the Keeper of the Flats. The Protector of the Flip Flops. The Shoe closet
Manager. Protecting the innocent shoes of tomorrow...it's her job.


She got to wear her chaps, my friend Cassidy picked these out for her at a consignment sale and I love them! She's Euro-chic.


Addiston accidently gave herself a tattoo with an ink pen she stole out of my purse. An inner thigh ichthus fish.


My favorite things of the week:
-My dear friend Jillian got engaged and I got to have her over for dinner to get all the dirty details!
-my husband who barely touched vegetables when we got married told me that summer squash tart is one of his favorite meals!
-I got half a mom-date with my friend Amber-we must complete that!
-We got to go see Wicked with some of our college friends.
-Addiston has taken a two hour nap everyday this week!
-I got to spend an hour as I do every week chatting over lunch with my friend Deirdre.
-We got to see Jared's dad Dave twice!

Rainy Day

Thursday was a rainy day.

The symphony of fall breezes and steady rain drops lulled us sleep in a little later than usual. The grey sky was welcomed after a week of business and errands, of meetings and appointments. We were groggy and lazy and there was nothing particularly important to be done so we sported sweats all day.

The little one enjoyed playing with mommy's jewelry,



and reading lots and lots of books,



and discovering herself inside my phone.



The daddy came home to a house littered with mismatched toddler shoes and animal crackers. Books were strewn all over the floor and sippy cups were stuck under couches. But because he is the perfect yin to my yang he smiled, kissed me hello and we ignored the tornado that had gone through our living room and enjoyed some pasta and creamed spinach.

Stream of consciousness

Sorry for the hiatus in posting as usual life has been busy.

Wednesday night our church held its annual candy parade and this year we let Addiston get dressed up and we took her. It was so sweet to see her interact with all of the other children and if I say so she was the cutest one there!


I let her sift through her bucket of candy and Intended on letting her pick out just one piece to eat. My kid is awesome and picked the Apple instead of candy!


Last Thursday Jared and I celebrated our four year wedding anniversary. My dad came into town because we were supposed to leave for the weekend but as life goes plans were changed and we stayed in town, we had a nice visit with my Dad and didn't have to worry about finding a babysitter at all this weekend. Thursday night we went out with my dad and some friends to our favorite restaurant café Bosna. We figured that we didn't get married in private so why should we celebrate in private? We are so blessed to have such great friends and family that we wanted to share this with them.

Friday Jared worked a half day, Addy and I wave goodbye to the daddy every morning. She sits in his lap while he situates his work stuff and his coffee, turns on the car and then a little longer while he just laughs at her amazement at the blinker and the horn, the windshield wipers and the gear shift.

I got a new cell phone friday afternoon which was long overdue. I was still rockin' the old-school flip phone! That night I put on my dress like I do every year but we were running late and we didn't get a picture, but it still fit...like a glove. Jared and I went out to a very nice restaurant and went and saw the movie Ides of March. It was set in Cincinnati which made me so happy but I was confused we walked out of the theater and realize that we still live in Nashville.

Saturday I coached upwards, in the morning and Jared worked on the hot tub a little bit. I love working with those girls, they are so sweet and fun and I only have one week left and I'm going to miss them so much. I told my dad he could pick out anything he wanted for dinner and I would make it. He picked out a new chicken recipe from one of my favorite cookbooks and we all ended up loving it.

Sunday we had church and we were so blessed that one of our friends spoke in our Sunday school class. It's strange that sometimes you don't know details about people in your lives and then when you hear them share their testimony you're blown away and love them even more! After church we met my aunt, uncle and grandpa for lunch and then did a little shopping! Sunday night was our churches annual fish fry and as always the food was delicious but because it was so cold we didn't stay and visit as long as we would have liked.

Monday morning my dad left and I was really bummed and so was Addiston she really liked having her papa here to entertain her!

Her with my dad's yellow cup-he will be buried with that cup!